The Art of Balancing Passions and Priorities
Ever felt overwhelmed by the mounting tasks on your calendar, wondering how to juggle your passions with pressing responsibilities? In this unique episode, I’m taking a detour from our usual discussions to give you a glimpse into my personal journey with podcasting. As much as I cherish this platform, which aligns seamlessly with my core values, I find myself at a pivotal crossroads, grappling with the decision to either sideline podcasting or adapt to the evolving demands of my schedule.
Delving deeper, this episode is a reflection of a challenge many leaders, including myself, face: confronting a workload that seems insurmountable. I’ll explore the emotional and mental toll of such situations, emphasizing the role of mindset in managing overwhelm. From practical strategies to reprioritize tasks to the art of surrender and the significance of clear communication, join me as I navigate the complexities of maintaining balance, embracing acceptance, and finding beauty in letting go.
And as with everything I share on the podcast, this is what I believe based on what I’ve read and researched. But please don’t take my word for it. Keep what sticks, discard the rest and for goodness sakes, go out and test drive it!
What You’ll Learn In Today’s Episode:
The emotional and mental impact of an overwhelming workload.
The crucial role of mindset in managing and overcoming feelings of overwhelm.
Practical strategies to effectively reprioritize tasks and responsibilities.
The transformative power of surrender when faced with mounting pressures.
The importance of clear communication in managing personal and professional challenges.
Techniques to transition into a psychological state of acceptance.
Insights into the art of letting go and finding beauty in unexpected places.
What Was Mentioned:
Ideas Worth Sharing:
“All of those systems are showing cracks. They’re not actually able to do the job that is required given the demand that is on my plate.” – Christina Sestan
“If I let go of the part of myself that is capable and competent and will get everything done, what’s next?” – Christina Sestan
“Until we can pump the brakes and actually see those fears that are operating, I don’t believe we’re going to change anything.” – Christina Sestan
“We create our own experience by the stories we tell ourselves.” – Christina Sestan
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Speaker 1 0:01
Hey, it's Christina. Thanks for joining us. And welcome to the Squeeze. Because we have to get real, we have to tell ourselves the truth, and that means challenging our ideas, as I said, about what it means to be competent, I Hi. Okay, so true confession. Right out of the gate, I am going to do something really different on this podcast, and there's a reason for that, and I want to give you a little bit of a background, very briefly. So, it seems that podcasting for me is getting pushed a bit to the back burner as what I'm kind of casually, but kind of seriously calling the tsunami of my fall schedule. While that starts to encroach, I actually realized my hands are a bit tied, and I kind of have to let some things fall off the plate, so I got to thinking, like, if the current format of podcasting, and that's where I research and I write and I interview someone, and then I record it, and then I edit it, if that doesn't work, and yet I love podcasting, and I really do. I mean, when I look at my values and I cross reference with everything I'm up to, podcasting hits every single one of my values. So, there's this way that I am at a crossroads. I either put it on the back burner or I adapt, so the bottom line is, as I look at my fall calendar, I have come to a very hard conclusion, I'm not going to get everything done, and so I thought, okay, this would be a really great topic for a podcast, because God knows I have coached so many leaders over the last long period of time who are saying the same thing to me and here I am struggling with the same thing, so I thought it might be an interesting conversation to talk about when you are facing a workload that you know in your heart of hearts, if you're really honest with yourself, you're not going to be able to get everything done, and so I want to talk a little bit about, like, what does that actually feel like, and what kind of shift do I need to do inside my own head in order to work with that. So that's what this podcast is about. So just a little note that if you are indeed hearing this, it means that this format didn't make it to the cutting room floor, and actually I've gone forward with it, so that means success, and if you're not listening to it, we might as well just stop there, so let's assume that you are listening to it and so the first thing that I want to address is I'm just going to call it loosely mindset, and what I mean by that is I think that I operate, you know, pretty normally. I think most people are like this, where I have sort of an assumption, not always examined, but an assumption that I'm going to get shit done, you know. I'm going to get done what needs to be done, and I have a busy workload. And if you're uncertain of that, you know, you can validate that with my husband. He'll be happy to tell you, actually, how busy I am. That's that's a reality. So I'm up to a lot of things, you know. I'm building my business, creating a new online platform, and I'm also teaching university, and that's to say nothing of all the personal things and the things that I like to do outside of my work, and just stuff that comes up, so you know, whatever, not my first rodeo, a lot of things going on, but back to that mindset, because I think it's valid.
Speaker 1 4:01
I think that a lot of the time in the back of my mind, unexamined though it may be, I assume I'm going to get shit done, and I think that there is a little bit of a work ethic mentality in there, and I think there is a lot of perfectionism in there, and I want to out that because I mean I teach this stuff for crying out loud and I absolutely suffer from it, so let's just call me a recovering perfectionist, because I think you know, just naming it right now, I actually get to see it and I get to share it with you, and I actually think a lot of this, you know, opportunity for growth and being able to shift patterns that aren't serving us, yada yada yada, is actually being able to talk about it, and in order to talk about it, we have to see it. So I'm right in the middle of seeing it. So it's gotten to the point where the complexity in my work life has gotten to a point where. The systems that I use to manage my time and figure out my priorities, and what do I work on first, like all that stuff, and I'm a pretty organized person, but all of those systems are showing cracks. They're not actually able to do the job that's required, given the volume that is on my plate right now, the demand that is on my plate, and so that has actually got my head up, because I'm realizing I don't know about you, but I have these moments where it's the middle of the night, and you know, I sort of notice that I'm awake all of a sudden, not not wide awake, but just enough to notice that my mind almost was just waiting for me to wake up, so that it could get going, and get going it does, and so I started to pay attention to what that actually looks like, sounds like, feels like, etc. And I've come up with this very sort of basic pattern that when my mind gets going, whether it's the middle of the night, or frankly, whether I'm meditating, that's always a classic time, or when I'm doing yoga, like that's another classic time when it gets going, that what gets it going is a problem that it's trying to solve, and that problem could be just figuring out the email that I have to send to someone that maybe requires a little bit of stealth, it might be a problem of how do I actually attend to this many coaching sessions in this period of time, like it's just general workplace problems that we all have a million of every day that we have to solve. So I noticed that my mind was just really hooking me with that problem that I needed to solve, because the reality is I did need to solve it. I just didn't need to solve it at 3am or while I was meditating, or while I was doing yoga, so all of that helped me get my head up and notice that, oh, there's actually more going on right now than I can handle with my current sort of organizational systems, and that was scary, and that's when I had to acknowledge that assumption that operates in the background that says, yeah, I'm going to get it done, and it is incredibly humbling to be somebody who is a performer, I'm a recovering high performer, as well as a recovering perfectionist, pretty much recovering from everything while we're talking about it. For me to say, actually, I am not going to be able to get everything done, it's terrifying, but it's also relieving, and the funny thing is that with all the leaders that I've supported over the years, who tell me, you know, when we actually start looking right down at the detail level of what they've got on their plate, and they, they have to come to the same conclusion, there's so much resistance, and the resistance is based on this, like we'd rather live in the fairy tale called I can get it all done. I just have to put more time in, or have to work harder, or smarter, or maybe I'll just give up this weekend, or maybe next weekend too, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
Speaker 1 8:10
But anything to maintain the version of ourselves that gets it done, because it seems that the resistance we have, myself included, that when I come to that place where all things are pointing at the fact that I won't get everything done, that there is that tremendous resistance I feel that I, I mean, if I, if I let go of myself as a person that's capable and competent, and we'll get all that done. What's next, and that's just the tip of the iceberg. So, remember that we're, we're kind of in the realm of the mindset here, and I think it will make good practical sense to look at, you know, the first chunk being the mindset and how we shift that, and then the second part being like what are the actual practical things that you can do when you, you know, recognize that you've got more on your plate that you can do, because there is a practical element here, like how do you decide, how do you deprioritize, etc. But back to that mindset, and I really think the lion's share is with the mindset, I know it is for me. I mean, I could just go online right now and Google, like, how do you determine what to drop off your priority list, and there'd probably be some really great stuff there. And I'm not going to negate that it's valuable, it is. It's just that if my mindset is not shifting in accordance, then I'm probably going to not be as invested in those techniques, and therefore they probably won't, you know, I probably won't set them up in a way that will be sustainable. So that's why I'm going to put the lion's share on mindset. I generally do with most things, as you know, if you've worked with me. So back to this mindset and that fear that you know. If I let this stuff drop, or I, you know, say no to that, or just simply say I can't, then maybe that could become a habitual thing, like I'll let go of something else, and I might just sort of stop polishing the way I show up over here, and who knows, it'll be like a snowball, you know, going down the hill, picking up speed, and becoming bigger and bigger, and to the point where you know I'll completely and utterly lose all of my credibility and my reputation, and who will want to work with me, and you know, again, that's just mind, the mind, the mental monkey mind, as we call it, that's pretty typical, so we'll just call that sort of fear number one, right? Like, if I let this slide this time, what am I going to let slide next time? I feel like people who have ever done sort of exercise programs or diet and nutrition programs probably know this one really well, because we set out with great intentions, we have a good structure in place, you know, we hit our target, and then there's that one day, maybe we had a bad sleep or something else sort of drags us down, and we go, well, I'll just let this one slide, and I don't know about you, but that's always a scary prospect, because I think, well, if I let this slide, does that mean it's going to be easier to let it slide next time? So I don't know if that's something you've encountered, I imagine it is, but we'll just call that fear number one. Like, where is it going to stop if I start? Oh no, fear number two, I think it's really just the same fear set a different way, is that if I do this, I'll actually lose control, like I will lose control of my ability to show up competent, my reputation will take a hit. Maybe I won't be seen as professional. That there are all these ways that when we're under pressure, particularly when you're inside an organization that's also under pressure, and things are moving fast, you know. Budgets are always at risk of being cut. We're, you know, in a major amount of churn in most organizations right now.
Speaker 1 12:11
So, there's like all kinds of pressures, and so that loss of control, that feeling of loss of control, was just really the fear of losing control, that that can be an incredible impediment to actually being honest and saying I can't do it. So, those, I think, those are just a couple off the top of my head fears. You've probably got other ones in mind, in which case I'd love to hear from you if something comes up for you as you're listening, but those fears are what propel our resistance. Why we will then, you know, I can't even believe some of the stuff I hear from leaders. How hard they will work then to push themselves to get everything done. So, until we can pump the brakes and actually see those fears that are operating, I don't believe we're going to stop. I don't believe we're going to change anything. I think we're just going to run faster, and I think that's what most people do. I think leaders think I just have to work harder, I have to put in more time. When I bring it back to my own life, and I think about my fall, my tsunami of a calendar that's coming for me, you know. I've got this weekend off, and it would be nice to just chill and read books and do the other things that I like to do, but what I've noticed is a real uptick in the pressure to try to do some more strategic thinking and create some better processes, and all these things are they're not useless, but there is a real undertone of trying to maintain control. I mean, it makes me think of a metaphor, like if you're trying to cross a creek, you know, and the creek bed big has big rocks in it, and your feet are slipping on them. There's this way that we want to just shore that up and put more rocks in it to give us a steadier sort of platform to stand on as we're making our way across the shaky sort of environment, and I think that it might feel safer, I might feel more in control the more time that I spend, but I think there's an illusion there, because I think what that does is it actually cuts me off from having the experience of just saying I can't, and that's, you know, I'm looping around here, but that's that's full circle here, and so let's just pause there for a second, because I think that when all of our systems fail us, often that's what's left, is we just have to look at this and name it and say here comes the tsunami, and I wonder what's going to get missed, and I think that's so crucial, because what happens is you're moving into. To a sort of a psychological mindset that I'm just going to call acceptance, and in a case like this, acceptance is an easy word to say, and it's a very difficult process to actually go through, because we have to get real, we have to tell ourselves the truth, and that means challenging our ideas, as I said, about what it means to be competent. Hey, you're listening to the Squeeze, and if you like what you're hearing, there's a whole world of citrus couching to discover. We've got an online leadership program, it's called Citrus You, and it features those three key tools you need to be a better leader, well, to be a better human, we also have a number of mini learning bundles that you can get into, and there's plenty more. If you're interested, you can follow us on Instagram, or check out our website@www.citruscoaching.com And the show resumes now, you I think a lot of people think that when they admit they can't, you know, or when they cry uncle, when they admit it, when they accept it, that it's going to bring on something catastrophic, and I think that it's actually paradoxical. Case in point is this podcast I had to recognize, own, and accept that this podcast was getting bumped to the back burner before my mind could start to see differently, and in seeing differently, that sort of forced me to let go of my controlled approach to podcasting that I've always had. Now this could end up being a big flop. We'll see.
Speaker 1 16:49
I would very much welcome, and in fact invite your comments, because I want to be producing what is useful to you, and I just thought that when I recognized that I wasn't doing podcasting, and how much it meant to me, that I thought, yeah, that's a pretty common topic. I think a lot of people are feeling hemmed in by their calendars. So, are you with me so far on this whole mindset thing? Like, actually, that there is a little bit of surrender here, and surrender is one of those funny things that it feels so hard to do, and yet the second we do it, it's like suddenly it's relieving, and so it might be for you a conversation that you have with your boss to just simply say I can't, and that's like that's ballsy, that takes courage, but you know what's incredible is it's kind of like what you're doing is you're providing like the blank slate for how we move forward from here, because I think what normally happens is that leaders to their own detriment, they won't be clear like that, and so the messages coming to the boss are cloudy, unclear, you know, and often leaders will resort to a lot of what I would call sort of passive, passive aggressive sort of maneuvers, now I think largely they're unconscious, you know. They just might mention offhandedly that they were, you know, worked this weekend, and that they haven't had vacation in two years or something. You know, we always sort of put that on, tack that on. It's not the topic of the conversation, it's the add on, and I think that that is, you know a whole sort of way that we don't communicate clearly, and so our boss is left at loose ends, like, are you asking me for something? Like, what is this? Oh, okay, sounds like you're having a hard time, whatever. But to actually sit down, metaphorically, perhaps in some cases, and just say, I can't, you know, without apology, without victimization, right, because we could always go down that path too. I could have been a total victim about podcasting. Hate to be frank, I was for a minute, I was just like, this sucks, like really, this is like what I have to get rid of, but we don't have to stay there, so I think it's about that clear communication is about surrendering to the reality and acceptance, and then I think that there is this paradoxical opening. I've worked with a lot of leaders who, you know, by the time they show up on my doorstep, they're so overextended that they wouldn't know balance if it came up and smacked them in the head, they just wouldn't, and it's only by starting to slow down, which for most people going fast is scary. It's scary for me too. It's just that I have such a track record of success of slowing down that the evidence just speaks for itself. So when I get overwhelmed or going too fast, I know I know the first thing I need to do is pump those brakes. So when I work with these leaders who show up and they're so overwhelmed and they don't have a clue where to start and they're so stressed out, I'll oftentimes just sit with them, like usually on the phone or Zoom, and do a five minute grounding session, and by that I just mean a sort of a guided visualization, and I'll ask something like, you know, what are you feeling in your toes, and you know, they'll sort of like, what the hell are you asking me, and it takes a varying degree of time, depending on the person, for them to quote unquote get it, and by that I mean be in the present moment, because don't forget that a lot of this overwhelm and this sense of like continual pressure, and I have to work harder and longer, and all of that. That's really living in the mind, and it's a concept, it's a story, and what you're feeling in your toes is an experience, and those are two different things.
Speaker 1 21:14
And it's not to negate how busy you are, but it is to say that I promise you, you're not going to find a better way through if you're coming at it under the influence of the busyness, so if you're in your head space of busy, you've tripped all kinds of physiological systems, you're probably having lots of adrenaline, lots of cortisol in your system. I know what that feels like very well. well recently, as I think about the tsunami that is coming, which is coming tomorrow, by no Tuesday, so two more days, and the tsunami, meaning I've had the summer off, and this is my first days of work back in the saddle, so to speak, and I have put so much emphasis on this tsunami metaphor that I'm going to actually challenge myself mid-podcast right now to change what I'm calling that, because we unknowingly do this all the time, we do it to ourselves, we create our own experience by the story we tell ourselves, so when I tell myself the tsunami is coming, well, what are you going to do in real life if you hear the tsunami siren? You're going to run for cover, you're going to go to high ground, and every time I tell myself that there is a tsunami on my calendar, it's exactly what I do, and the antidote is to pump the brakes and realize what I'm doing to myself and how I'm actually generating a physiological reaction in my body that then just makes me feel lousy. I feel anxious. So, real time, I'm going to reframe the tsunami, and I'm going to say that rather than a tsunami, what it is, is it's a time where there's going to be a high demand for pushing pause. It's a time for pausing, checking in up my meditation. Maybe I remember I saw this meme one time on the internet. It said everybody should meditate for 10 minutes a day. If you don't have 10 minutes, you should meditate for an hour a day, because it is paradoxical. I don't know why we got so addicted to the idea that we just have to spend more time to get stuff done, anybody who has ever tried to be productive from an overwhelmed mindset knows you're not very productive, you know it. I don't have to tell you that. Those people that race around the office at mock three, and I've been one of them, we're not really getting stuff done. What we're doing is we're paying off our anxiety gremlin, so we're thinking I'm moving fast, I must be getting a lot done, but those rare times when we actually do pause and we do have some sort of prioritization system or something that gets our attention to ask what are we actually doing and is it the right stuff, you know, we usually get a glimpse of that, and go, "Oh, holy shit, nope, I'm moving real fast, and I'm letting everybody know I'm super busy, but I'm not attending to the most important things, and that makes me think of Stephen Covey's time management matrix, and I think that's a super useful tool, because I think it draws your attention to whether you are working on things that will just be get more of the same, so I call those like firefighting things, you know, as in the firefighters, they're always rushing to emergencies, and I think that the more that we. Rush to emergencies, because we haven't then ever taken the time to review our processes, or you know, ask for help, or do any of those other type of activities. Then all we're going to keep getting are firefighting emergencies, and that goes back to the push pause, and you know, even in those times when you're so overwhelmed you can't even see straight. You know, I coached someone a long time ago who wouldn't take vacation because she couldn't come back and face her inbox. She's like, "It's not worth it. Just like, "Oh my god, that's so crazy.
Speaker 1 25:38
But again, I'm going to say that if you're listening to this and you're in a lot of overwhelm, or you're in a lot of busyness, and you're noticing that the things that matter to you are getting bumped, then push pause, take an hour, the world's not going to stop turning, but the headway you make from a grounded head space, you're going to be able to tap more clarity, you're going to probably be able to bring on some, some of that higher level thinking, you know, that really creative thinking that we need in order to problem solve, like for real problem solve, not just get me out of this desktop right now, and as I'm sharing this with you, I'm thinking of the rest of my weekend, and I'm recognizing that the old way would be to sit on my laptop and just hammer it out, just hammer it out, and sort of feel like you beat back the demon a little bit, you know, you can sort of have a day off or a reprieve, maybe I'll sleep well tonight, but anybody that's ever been to the carnival, you know, the traveling carnival or whatever, you, I don't even know if there's a modern version of it, but maybe you've heard of the Whack-a-Mole game, it's a great metaphor for this, I've used it for years and years and years, because every time you whack a mole, another one pops up somewhere else, and that's exactly what my business life is like, and it's probably much like yours as well. So I could sit here on my laptop on this sunny afternoon and just bang away, right, just go through and mark a whole bunch of stuff for school, and send a whole bunch of emails, and you know, just like, you know what I'm saying, is you just get your little pickaxe out, and you're just chip, chip, chip, chip, chip. And then you sort of have that feeling of, I've done a lot of stuff, but when you step back metaphorically, and you look at the big picture has anything changed, and that's why I'm doing this podcast today, because something major changed. I thought, in order to podcast, I had to go through my usual approach, and I will do that when I can. I mean, I love going down the rabbit hole of a particular topic, researching it, finding out who the experts are, inviting people onto the podcast interview. I love that, and I will do more of that, I promise you. But why wait? Why not just see what I've got that's cooking for me right now? Because I'm pretty sure someone listening is going to have it cooking for you too. So, right back to the beginning, here there's so many things going on in my mind right now as I wake up like in real time with you listening to realize that the tsunami is only a tsunami when I make it a tsunami, and that it is crucial to pay attention to those, those things that we do that really matter to us, and I know this, I teach it, and when I do the things that matter to me, it's very motivating, it's very fulfilling, and that is its own reward, and so you know, just doing something that I did. So I'll move a little bit into the practical. These are things that have worked for me. So I am an absolute stationary addict. Okay, so like I love going to Staples, and I have all kinds of things, and that is because I am a visual thinker. So, if you are a visual thinker and you don't have a whiteboard, get one and get lots of colorful markers, because that's half the fun. So, what I did was I went back to my list of values, and I have a pretty straightforward value exercise on my website that you can download for free if you want, so if you're like, "What, I don't know what my values are, you can go and just download that. I think it's under tools on my website, and I like to have a working list of kind of five to seven of them, and so you know there's a sort of a. Shift between my business and my personal life, but not entirely. There's a lot of similarity.
Speaker 1 30:04
So, what I did was, I have my big whiteboard, and I grabbed my five kind of work work values, and I put them up on the whiteboard, and they had their own little worlds. And then I took the work that is on my calendar, and I cross-referenced it with the values, and for every value, so I'll just use the example of podcasting, so some of the values, things like variety, learning, challenge, contribution, I'm forgetting the other one, so for every one of those values that podcasting hits, I put podcasting beside it, and I can tell you right now, podcasting showed up next to every single one of them, and then you know, I take the other bits and pieces of my work world, so teaching, I love teaching, that hits a lot of my values as well, but there's a number of things that were not hitting my values, and so this is a really great practical exercise to help you actually see what matters to you. Now, are you always going to get to do what matters to you? No, of course not. I have to bring home the bacon, so to speak, as I'm sure to you. But if we completely negate what matters to us, then there's a way in which we're going to start to notice our gas tank going down pretty quickly, and if I were going into the fall that I have scheduled without a connection to activities that tie me to my value system, then you know I think it's got the recipe for burnout on it, so you may want to get a whiteboard, try out your values, cross reference with what you've got on your plate, and if you find that you're like not actually aligning with your values, then you better sit down and find out what are some ways that you can boost that, so like if you have a value around variety, as I do, and a lot of what you're up to in your day to day just sort of seems like you know there's there's not variety, then it's time for you to take a strategic look at that part of your work, and strategy by its very nature will enable you to come with variety, because you're going to be thinking about it differently. That's what a strategic perspective does. It takes you out of the weeds and brings you up to 300 feet. That's a different way to work with your work. So, said another way, we work in our work, right? That's when we're just doing it, but strategic thinking is working on our work, so it's not just what we're doing, it's how we're doing it. How well is this working? Why do I keep repeating this particular process when it doesn't do anybody any good? Why do we keep having this meeting when it's obvious that nobody's really putting any effort into it. What do I need to change as the leader of this team to create more opportunities for divergent thinking? So that's strategic approach. Talk about variety. So, by doing a whiteboard or something similar, you don't have to do to whiteboard, you don't have to be visual like me. You might have your own way of looking, but look and ask yourself, like, where does my energy go up? Right? I think there's something on my website on managing your energy levels, and you can kind of look at the different areas of your life and rate it. See, what I'm pointing to here is the first step is noticing it, and I'll tell you back to the beginning. The way I noticed it was when I realized that podcasting was going to have to be something I let go of, and once I realized that I had to go through that sort of mindset shift. I had to recognize that the approach I was taking with it, you know, the research and the recording it and editing it and talking to the experts and all that stuff, that I actually, I just didn't have the bandwidth for that. So then I just knew that if I was going to do it, it had to change, and it was that paradoxical notion of acceptance that I talked about.
Speaker 1 34:25
I really want to underscore that, that when you are willing to get real with yourself about your current situation, particularly in times of overwhelm, that you are actually opening up more possibility for a new way to emerge, but you will not be able to see that new way if you continue doing the same thing the same way every day, right. The definition of insanity, so if one day after the next is a slog, if it's that chipping away at your emails or. Whatever it is, those quick wins. Just remember that the longer you keep this, this dance going, this hamster wheel plate spinning in the air, you can think of all the different metaphors. The longer you do it, nothing's going to change. You're just going to be doing more plate spinning, or more hamster wheeling, or whatever metaphor you want to call it, that the only thing that's going to give you a fighting chance is to push pause, and that's where you're probably going to go, no, because it's going to feel like the walls are going to cave in, and you're going to lose your credibility, and your reputation is going to be shot, and all that garbage I talked about at the beginning, the perfectionism, the control, all of that stuff. So I'm going to finish it up by saying, be like me, don't let go of the things that matter. But in order to do that, you have to recognize when enough is enough. You have to know when it's time to cry, uncle, and I don't mean in a victim way, where you're like, like, you know, start swooning and hope somebody brings the smelling salts. I'm talking about, you got to get real with yourself. This is about, I want to say, pull on your big kid pants. I don't know if I like that metaphor. Put on your big boots, you know, time to do some adulting, whatever you want to call it, but like, get real with yourself, like, stop this Disneyland fantasy that you're going to get everything done, you're not, and if there's a certain level of emphaticness to my voice, it's because I'm a little bit annoyed with myself for falling into this pitfall, given that I teach this stuff, given that I have all these systems for waking myself up, my speed bumps. Well, they failed me until now, and that's why I decided to do the podcast today. So, I hope you enjoyed it. I'd love to hear what you thought. So, please send me a note. I've discovered that it is a really important value for me to continue to contribute and share what I'm learning out into the world to whoever is listening, and that is what succeeded today. So I hope it continues to succeed, but I got to tell you, this is not my last kick of the can with perfectionism or my resistance to saying I can't do it, but I've really enjoyed recording this, and it like took me like 45 minutes, and you know, the editing on this is gonna be pretty straightforward, so nothing like my previous efforts, and those are great. I love those earlier podcasts, but what I'm saying is, I learned something new today with you in real time, and it was fun to share. So, thanks for listening, and I'll see you next time. So, you've been listening to The Squeeze. Thanks for joining us today. If you want to continue tuning in, don't forget to click subscribe, and as always, we want to hear your thoughts, your comments, your feedback, and challenges. If there's anything you don't agree with, thanks for joining us. And see you next time.
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